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Men
who abuse women are scumbags. Have you ever hit a woman? Me neither. There
is never a real reason to do it. Ever. Those who do, surely not real men,
are essentially cowards with serious mental and or emotional issues. They're
only surpassed in the sub-human category by people who abuse kids, or
animals.
For
years society refused to deal with the issue. You've heard the excuses:
"It just happened once", "She had it coming", "Who
could blame him?", "What a bitch", "He had a couple
drinks." A sickening display of cowardice that is often covered up,
excused for, looked the other way.
But
hopefully, no more. Finally we do not tolerate men who victimize. Abusers
are outed and looked down upon as the vermin they are. That is, unless
you are a celebrity athlete in this country. If so, by and large, you
still get away with it. Do we need to look any further than O.J.? Murdering
his wife and getting away with it was of course the most egregious of
his actions. But for years he abused Nicole and never faced any real consequences.
We all know that today, O.J. golf's, while the two people that he murdered
lay dead.
Now
you in the sailing community have an abuser among your heroes, and you'll
need to decide how to react.
Randy
Smyth, one of the most successful multihull competitors this country has
ever known, is spending 30 days in jail (the judge sentenced him to 90
days, but suspended 60 days) after being convicted by a jury of six of
his peers (4 men, 2 women) on domestic violence charges against his third
wife, Paula. This is his first conviction, but second charge. The first
domestic violence battery charge was one that he entered a plea agreement
to back in 1995 against his second ex-wife, Terri. Who knows how many
times the abuse was administered without being reported?
There
are those who claim to know Randy that are clamoring to defend him and
lash out at his third wife. Name-calling and character swipes are now
being delivered, yet the facts remain: a jury found him guilty of domestic
violence battery. That doesn't sound like my kind of hero.
While
there are always two sides to every story, there is only one side to a
guy who has been violent towards women at least three times: inexcusable.
So
while I'm sure many of you will be critical and accuse of us of rushing
to judgment, there just is no excuse for what this guy has done. We no
longer care what he has accomplished on the water; he voided that by being
an asshole towards his wives, the latest the mother of his three (and
one special needs child) children. We think he should be held in the same
regard as any other abuser and victimizer. None.
He
is in the sailing World Hall of Fame? Congratulations Randy, you have
just entered the Sailing Anarchy Hall of Shame.
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